Tuesday, March 5, 2013

Celebrate Quinncidence

As I look out the window at a fresh blanket of snow that has fallen over the great plains of South Dakota, I am reminded of the somber blanket that has fallen over my heart with the calendar changing to March. In just a week Quinn would've been one. It is so hard to wrap my head around. In my mind she is still a baby, I have a hard time picturing her eating birthday cake... she's not old enough to be eating cake! Tim & I have discussed what we are going to do on March 12th to celebrate Quinn's life. It is so easy to say that we are just going to stay in bed for the day and feel sorry for ourselves. But if I stay in bed, Quinn isn't getting what she deserves... I have this little light and I would be keeping it to myself. I have said time and time again that I just want my daughter to be known. I just want her life to affect others and if I stay in bed on the day she was born, her life and what she was to me stays in bed for the day and she deserves more than that. So on Tuesday March 12th Tim & I have decided to do random acts of kindness all day. We want to take the money we would have spent on cake, ice cream, decorations, and presents and bless the lives of others like Quinn blessed ours. At first we wanted this to be an intimate thing between the two of us, but the more we think and talk about it, the more we know that there are so many special people in our life that have walked this road with us that would want to do this with us. They say it takes a village to raise a child, but I now know that it takes a village to bury a child too. We couldn't have done this alone, Not without the support of so many special people that God has placed in our lives. So many people have told us if they could do anything we should just let them know. So... we want to open this up to you and we wanted to tell you in advance so you can start thinking & praying about what you might do. We are deeming Tuesday March 12th as "Celebrate Quinncidence" day. A day to celebrate Quinn, a day to celebrate her life, a day to randomly bless. It doesn't have to be big, you could write a nice note to someone who you appreciate, pay for someone's gas, coffee, or groceries, leave a big tip for a waiter, leave quarters on a vending machine or car wash, put flowers on someone's car, bring donuts to work, etc. I am opening this up my school, Washington High School, as well and will kick it off at the end of the week there. On Tuesday I will post pictures on the blog of what the students there did and how Quinn's birthday went. We would love to hear from you too and what random act of kindness you did on Tuesday to remember Quinn. Post it as a comment below.  And please keep us in your prayers for an abundance of grace this next week and a sense of peace in a time that feels so unfair. Thank you everyone in advance.

130 comments:

  1. What a lovely way to celebrate the live of Quinn and to keep her memory and beautiful spirit alive! I often think of you two and pray that the pain is lessening as time goes by. My sister Jackie experienced the same pain and no matter what she celebrates Douglas' memory every year in January....now 38 years later he still lives on in our hearts. Your blog is so beautiful, God has big plans for Quinn and for you I feel it!!! God Bless!!

    Diane Quintus Christensen

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  2. I love this idea so much... Her life will bring SO much joy to others on her birthday. Happy Birthday Quinn!

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  3. Awesome idea! We would love to join you in celebrating her life in this way.

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  4. You two are amazing! My family and IT will be doing something to help celebrate. One of my favorie bible verses is Isaiah 58:11 The Lord will guide you always. Know that the two of you are the guiding light for many others!

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  5. What a great way to celebrate Quinn's life!! We'll keep passing it on!! Love makes the world go round!!

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  6. What a wonderful way to celebrate the beautiful life of Quinn ... count me in!!

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  7. This is such a wonderful idea. When I saw the date she passed away I knew I had to be a part as I lost my sister Renee' to Leukemia that same day, but a different year. I wish I would have thought of something like this to honor her memory. Your daughter was so very cute and smiley and that means she was loved and she knew she was loved. And for that, you should be proud! I like to think that she is in the arms of my sister, who could never have children of her own, but was able to adopt three. If that is the case, they will have lots of smiles together because like my sister, your daughter clearly was happy like my sister was - happy and loving souls, who like to smile a lot. I will be a part of this great idea and will check back to tell you how I celebrated. My thoughts are with you and your husband!

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  8. I too know the pain of losing a beautiful baby daughter. To honor Quinn's life in this way is simply amazing. I will join you in celebrating her life and in giving blessings through these acts of kindness. Blessings and prayers to you this week as you traverse the many emotions.

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  9. That is such a cool idea Tim and Allie. Thank you for encouraging the rest of us to fall in step with you along this journey. God will be glorified!

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  10. Perfect. I don't know you, but I know many who do and you have been very close to my heart since your precious little lady went to be with Jesus. You can count on us to do something to remember Quinn on March 12. God bless you!


    Mandi Wolfswinkel
    www.wolfswinkelfam.blogspot.com

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  11. I love this idea! I will be doing something in Brookings, SD!

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  12. Count me in! I live in WA state and am the sister of good friends of yours. I might have to go to the grocery store and open my eyes to that person that might need her groceries paid for. :) Such a small price for us to pay, compared to the price of losing a beautiful little life! God bless your family! Happy Birthday Quinn!

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  13. Happy Birthday Quinn! I will definitely do something in remembrance of you!

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  14. We are planning and thinking of ideas already!!!

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  15. I'll also be celebrating with you! I've not met you or your husband, nor did i know your child. I've heard your cries and have followed your blog. You've been a model for those facing difficulties; your daughter was a blessing to your family, and through your example, she's now a blessing to the rest of us. My thoughts and prayers will be with you.

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  16. That is an incredible idea and we are honored to join in the fun. Will be praying for you!

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  17. What a beautiful way to honor the special gift that Quinn was and is. We have a bittersweet birthday to celebrate at the end of this month as well, so this has really touched my heart. I will prayerfully consider how the Lord wants me to honor both of our children. Lost to us, but not to Him.

    Blessings!

    Hannah

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  18. Happy Birthday to Quinn who will be turning 1 in heaven with a grand party! Tim n Ali - This is a beautiful way to spread the love of Jesus and be a blessing to others just like Quinn was. Hmmm... how will I pay it forward? Love u guys.

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  19. I too lost a beautiful Angel, June 25th as an undetermined cause of death also. Amirah was 2 1/2 years old, she was my sunshine, my best friends and the love of our lives. On her Jan.15, 2013 Birthday we celebrated her day as if she was still with us. We released balloons, sang Happy Bithday and blow out candles. As a gift from her to my family members I had an 18 month calendar with everyones birthday in it and each month represented photos of her beautiful life here on earth. My heart hurts for you and I pray that you find comfort on her special day

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  20. What an amazing way to celebrate your beautiful daughters life. I do not know either of you but stumbled upon your blog today. I would be honored to help celebrate Quinncidence. I will also add you to my daily prayers. Just from reading your blog, you two are truly an inspiration and a beacon of God's love for us all, even through the unimaginable. I cannot imagine the pain of losing a daughter, but lost my sister to cancer when she was only 12. God bless.

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  21. Tim & Allison,
    You are amazing. We always look forward to your blog posts, like always this one didn't disappoint...not there is an expectation but I think you know what I mean. We are walking this road with you even though we don't know each other personally. We will definitely be doing something to remember Quinn on March 12. We have our thinking caps on.
    God Bless you through this journey,
    Chad & Robbie Jungers

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  22. My coworker and I are planning to make little angel ornaments from unique shaped paper clips, ribbon and a bead and will add a special personal note for each coworker to quinncidentally let them know how appreciated they are at work which is something that does not always get communicated during the busy-ness and deadlines of our workplace. Prayers to you both on March 12 and blessings for the celebration of Quinn with an expanding blog community. Heather M

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  23. What a beautiful way to honor your baby girl. My emotions run high when I read your blog. I am simultaneously broken-hearted and uplifted. I don't know yet how we will celebrate Quinncidence, but please know that what we do, we will do with hearts filled with happiness that you are finding a way to bring light to the world in the midst of immense personal darkness. That is pure selflessness. Peace to you.

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  24. Your daughter touches our lives on a daily basis - and your words have impacted my personal walk with God in a way for which I will forever be grateful. Quinncidence will be celebrated by my family and many people in our community!!!

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  25. This is an awesome way to celebrate Quinn's life. I will definitely celebrate with you.

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  26. Today's message at church was that God speaks to us in times of crisis. I couldn't help but feel that God was speaking directly to me and planned for that message to be delivered two days before Quinn's birthday. As the service wrapped, they played one more song -- the same song that was playing when we arrived at the church for Quinn's funeral, Give Me Jesus. In that moment, I felt like God was there wiping my tears and I pray you feel the same nearness as the tears are shed over the next two days.
    I love you guys so much...Natalie

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  27. Know that your efforts are not in vain. Your message is traveling around the world!!!I live in Hawaii and will be certain to participate on March 12 in celebration of the beautiful blessing of Quinn. I pray God's arms continue to be wrapped around you and carry you through!! Aloha!

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  28. Sometimes just a simple note means so much to the recipient. What a beautiful way to remember a loved one...JoAnn

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  29. You both are an amazing example of love, strength, and faith! I am honored to celebrate Quinncidence in Illinois. I know I will make Quinn proud!
    Sending lots of love, peace, strength, hope, and prayers your way! Happy Birthday to an adorable angel!

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  30. Celebrating Quinncidence Day in the Twin Cities ♥
    Blessings and love to the entire family.

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  31. Amazing idea. . . . we're in. ..You are a beacon of hope, an amazing pillar of strength, and a vision of faith. Thank you for being you!

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  32. I just want to share this song with you. It was written & recorded by a dear friend & sister in Christ. She lost two sons before they turned 1. I hope it can bring you a bit of comfort. I'll be participating tomorrow.
    http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=MkQt2XepIA0

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  33. Celebrating Quinncidence with red velvet cupcakes. Random people throughout my day will receive one to join in the celebration. Happy 1st birthday Quinn!

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  34. http://www.facebook.com/events/283728155091673/
    Celebrating in KC, MO

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  35. Thanks for sharing your daughter with us. Quinn has amazing parents! I would be honored to share in your celebration! Happy Happy Birthday Quinn! From Unionville, MO

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  36. So... you may know... i like to have fun!!! and celebrating Quinn is going to be just that FUN!!!! to hear about it we may have to do coffee... oh wait we will have to do coffee:) love you guys!

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  37. Your story is such an inspiration! I will celebrate it by sharing this with my students and challenge them to celebrate Qinncidence Day by doing a random act of kindness. May God Bless you and your husband and Quinn.

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  38. My son and I brought flowers to spouses of deployed service members here in Okinawa, Japan today as a random act of kindness. We plan on doing a few more things tomorrow as well since it will still be the 12th in the states. Quinn's life is being honored and remembered and celebrated all around the world. You guys are such an inspiration and we are praying for you!

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  39. Beautiful! I've been trying to figure out how to celebrate my boys' birthday and I love this idea. I will be thinking of Quinn all day today. <3

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  40. Happy Birthday Quinn!! In honor of Quinncidence day, I delivered a gift to a pregnant teen mom . What an amazing way to celebrate such a special day. Thanks for sharing it with all of us!!

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  41. Happy Birthday, Quinn!!! I beleive I too will do an act of kindness in Quinn's memory. Thank you for a beautiful, inspiring blog.

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  42. Happy Birthday Quinn! I have been buying items for students at the college bookstore @ the community college I work at. I hope we do this every year. It's a great way to remember Quinn...even if we never met her in person. Thanks Ali & Tim for letting us bless others right along side you today!

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  43. Thanks for sharing your story. I heard it on the news and right away I loved it! I work in a school and I have been doing suprises for my co workers. I bought their favorite drinks, gave a huge jar of pickles for one, taped money to the pop machine. I also gave a birthday gift today to someone which I was late giving and shared your story in honor of Quinn. You are in my prayers and thoughts today!

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  44. Last night I couldn't fall asleep. I was thinking about Quinn and how much I wish she was with us. I woke up and the first thing I thought was a prayer, "Jesus be glorified by Quinn's life today." Today I will send flowers to another sweet friend who just lost her baby. No doubt, God is using Quinn's beautiful life to make a big impact today. We always knew she was so wise...she knows how to love and so do you.

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  45. To celebrate my 19th birthday (Yesterday, March 11th), I decided to do 19 random acts of kindness. And here is my list:

    1. I sent a hand written letter to my grandma.

    2. I wrote motivational quotes on sticky notes and posted them on all of the main doors in the residential hall.

    3. I let people go in front of me in line at food service.

    4. I placed quarters in an envelope and taped it on the vending machine with a note saying “Enjoy a treat on me.”

    5. I opened the door for people going into the Res hall (because it’s cold and it saves them the hassle of finding their U card).

    6. I will donate clothes to Salvation Army.*

    7. I left a thank you note for the janitor.

    8. I gave my CA (community advisor, like an RA) a gift of appreciation.

    9. I smiled and said hello to everyone I passed on the way to/from classes.

    10. I complimented strangers.

    11. I attempted to send a listserv email wishing everybody a great day (it kept coming back with an error-but it's the though that counts, right?)

    12. I picked up all the trash I saw throughout the day.

    13. I surprised a friend with a massage (She's a cross country runner who's super tense, and stressed about three midterms this week).

    14. I will bring donuts to the post office staff.*

    15. I stopped a police officer to tell him thank you for his service to our community. His reaction was really touching: he shook my hand and told me thank you, and that he really appreciated my gesture.

    16. I dropped lucky pennies (heads-up) all around campus.

    17. I left money ($5) in one of my favorite books in the library, and a note explaining.

    18. I left a pack of gum in the on-call CA offices. (Again with an explanatory note, and an additional "Thank you for being awesome" type statement)

    19. I taped appreciative poems to my professor’s office doors.

    *My car battery died, so I couldn’t drive to buy the donuts, or to drop my clothes off at the Salvation Army so I have to do this another day.

    Thank you for your inspiration!!

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  46. We're celebrating QUINNcidence at work with Angel food cake in honor of your beautiful Angel! Blessings to you & Tim today & Always!

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  47. I am celebrating QUINNcidence in Des Moines, IA today in honor of your beautiful daughter. This story has been very touching to me.

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  48. happy birthday beautiful Quinn. peace, prayers and blessings to the family. i will practice acts of kindness in spearfish, south dakota in celebration of you today.

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  49. I have been following your blog and have found it so inspirational. My husband and I ordered fried chicken and mashed potatoes for the residents at our local assisted living center in memory of Quinn for a special treat for them. Quinn will not be forgotten.

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  50. I am honored to celebrate this day for Quin...My son Stevie shared your story with us last year. We lift you in our thoughts and prayers.
    Cindy Connell

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  51. Thank you for inviting the world to celebrate Quinn today. You are beautiful, inspiring parents. Happy 1st birthday to your lovely daughter, Quinn. May you feel wrapped in love just as she is wrapped in love in heaven. I will be holding you in prayer, and will honor Quinn today by doing acts of love and kindness.

    This poem from John O'Donohue comes to mind. May I share it with you?
    No one knows the wonder
    Your child awoke in you,
    Your heart a perfect cradle
    To hold its presence.
    Inside and outside became one
    As new waves of love
    Kept surprising your soul.

    Now you sit bereft
    Inside a nightmare,
    Your eyes numbed
    By the sight of a grave
    No parent should ever see.

    You will wear this absence
    Like a secret locket,
    Always wondering why
    Such a new soul
    Was taken home so soon.

    Let the silent tears flow
    And when your eyes clear
    Perhaps you will glimpse
    How your eternal child
    Has become the unseen angel
    Who parents your heart
    And persuades the moon
    To send new gifts ashore.

    It seems like there is an angel of grace in your hearts, sending and welcoming new gifts ashore. May you treasure the gifts of kindness sown throughout the world in remembrance of your Quinn. In deep peace and love, an NWC grad in New Jersey.

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  52. happy birthday, sweet girl

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  53. I had the pleasure of receiving a random act in celebration of Quinn this morning. I was going through my normal morning routine which includes getting coffee at Cappuccino Cabin on E. 10th Street. When I provided my money to pay, the owner handed me a small flyer with this blog address on it. Someone payed for a number of coffee's for people this morning. So thank you for doing this.

    Jeff

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  54. Well God is good and he knows and loves you and your husband and Quinn very much. I'm writing from Amsterdam, and I saw this on my cousin's wife's wall on Facebook. Curious blogger that I am, I came across your page.
    The reason I began this little note "God is good..." is because my random act of kindness came today before I read about Quinn. And now I know it was in part for her and for you. Totally uncharacteristically, today in the supermarket (I married my Dutch husband six months ago and am totally just figuring our the language, Dutch culture, etc.) I felt a strong sense that I should pay for the man's groceries behind me. Have I ever, in my six months here, felt that urgency? No. Cheeks burning, I thought, 'that's crazy. That totally won't translate into Dutch culture...random acts of kindness don't happen here...I live in city, people are aloof, I don't speak the language, etc. etc. But I felt STRONGLY as though I should do this. HE couldn't believe it. Neither could the cashier. When they asked me why, I honestly said (in English) "I just wanted to." Afterwards the man, an Iranian immigrant, asked my story and then invited my husband and I to tour his art gallery. I don't know what this will lead to, but I know that God is involved, and that somehow God's goodness serves to connect the family of God all over the world!

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  55. Celebrating in West Lafayette, In the memory of your angel...Brandon Snyder

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  56. I received a RAOK today in memory of Quinn. You're daughter has touched many lives!....Pella, Iowa

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  57. Just celebrated Quinn in Minneapolis! Quinn is definitely making an impact around the world! You two are amazing parents and I admire your strength. You are in my prayers.

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  58. My 4-year-old & I brought our favorite librarian a smoothie today in honor of Quinn. Thank you for sharing your story & allowing Quinn's life to touch so many others. My parents also lost their first child; he was gone before I was born. I can't fathom what my parents or you have gone through, but it has been a blessing to know that I will get to meet my big brother some day. Until then, I'll do RAOK's on his birthday and Quinn's.

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  59. A co-worker of mine sent out a nice comment about each of the people on our 'team'...just for Quinn. : )

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  60. Celebrating Quinn's birthday in Vancouver,WA...thank you for sharing your life and Quinn's with us all!

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  61. Celebrating Quinn's life in Brandon, SD. I was to meet a lady to sell her some items that she was going to buy off an online garage sale. I told her to keep the money and left a note in the bag explaining why. It was so fun to see the smile on her face. Happy Birthday Quinn! Saying a prayer for you and hugging my kids a little tighter tonight. God Bless your family!

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  62. We have never met, but were inspired by Quinn's story to do a random act of kindness today. We are bringing dinner over to our sons' daycare providers to thank them for all that they do for us and to celebrate your little girl. God bless.

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  63. Hi Tim and Allison... My name is Katrina and I celebrated Quinncidence in Visalia, CA this morning. I delivered a box of muffins to the NICU at my neighborhood hospital and told the nurses and doctors your story of Quinn. I told them thank you for taking care of all our precious baby girls and boys in honor of your angel in heaven today. I'm praying for comfort for you both and for trust in the Lord's plan because we definately don't always understand it. May you feel God's hand in your life today and always as you honor Quinn.
    Beautiful idea.
    Katrina Bartel

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  64. Happy Birthday, Quinn. She will always be with you in your heart. We also know the deep, deep grief of a childs death. Really like your idea for the day! I can't get out but will pay it forward somehow today in memory of Quinn. We have found that Compassionate Friends has really helped us on the grief journey. Look it up on the internet for their web site and see if there is a group around your area. It is a group of parents who have had a child (of any age) die. Even the web site has great poems, stories, ideas on how to cope.
    Thanks for sharing Quinn with us.

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  65. Today is the anniversary of my husband's re-birth in Christ. To honor God's activity in his life and Quinn's, I brought a batch of cookies to the day care center by my office. :)

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  66. I put money in all the laundry machines on floor at the dorms. Happy Quinncidence :)

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  67. Your daughters birthday is being celebrated in Iowa today! Prayers for your friends and family for the sorrow it brought you that day and the joy and smiles it is putting on many faces today!

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  68. This is a great idea to turn a special day into impacting people by doing something kind and sharing the purpose. We helped three people fill their vehicles with gas. The gas station employee was moved that we were doing this from hearing the keloland news story. Great day because of Quinncidence! :)

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  69. Your love for Quinn will spread to so many people today. Her life will bring happiness and joy to others. May God hold you in the palm of His hand today and always. Love from some Eagle Grove family friends.

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  70. Your story is so touching. I plan on doing random "acts of kindness today. Your story has spread and people all over are celebrating Quinn.From Salt lake city Utah.

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  71. Prayed with a friend today whose father in law and two other members in her family are battling cancer. I just listened and tried to give eords of encouragement to her. Quinn was a beautiful little girl and has touchrd so many lives. You have all been in our daily thoughts and prayers.

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  72. The power of the internet is amazing. Please know your story has been shared among a group of women in California and we are also honoring your beautiful daughter.

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  73. A simple, humble gesture to show what kind of inspiration her story is during a busy day at the dealership. A co worker and i paid a service bill of a customer who is from out of town. We attached a note and a copy of the article from Kelo, only asking that it be paid forward.

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  74. To the person who paid for my Starbucks (41st & Louise) in honor of Quinncidence Day--Thank you! I promise your kindness will be passed on in honor of this beautiful little girl.

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  75. Quinn's story and your decision to honor her memory so meaningfully inspired me to celebrate Quinncidence Day here in Berkshire, England. I decided to take a favorite treat in for my team at the office. We got together and all shared one thing we liked about working with each other. I am ending the night by making an extra monthly donation to the families of two children that I currently sponsor through Compassion International. May God richly comfort and keep you as you grieve and celebrate the memory of Quinn. 8 people in the UK had a brighter day because of her. :-)

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  76. Dropping off a giant box of baby diaper wipes to our local women/children's shelter today as they are in desperate need of this very item. In honor of your darling baby girl. I don't know you but my heart is touched by your story and your wishes to pay it forward. Your prayers have been answered that her life would touch many hearts. Blessings and Love to you.

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  77. I couldn't figure out what random act of kindness I wanted to partake in today. I was almost baffled at how much trouble I was having coming up with ideas... However, God had a plan. Today I found myself in a situation where I needed to give CPR to a stranger. Praise God, and with the help of precious angel Quinn, he survived. The moment the person came back, I knew that it was Quinn that had been helping save this man. I never got the opportunity to meet her, but I have been incredibly touched by this blog, and I can't wait to meet her in heaven and thank her for what she did today.

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  78. We celebrated Quinn's first birthday today! We brought cookies to my husband's work for Quinncidence Day and he emailed everyone her story. Thank you for sharing this day with us, Quinn's light is shining bright today because of the love her parents have for her.

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  79. Happy Birthday to Quinn in Heaven! To celebrate her birthday, I bought pizza for the the nurses at the Chamberlain hospital. May God bless you!

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  80. My children and I have had a hard time lately. My husband left us with very little in the bank and moved out of state. But tonight we went to a local Pizza Ranch and stumbled into a QUINNcidence. This Pizza Ranch was giving free buffetts to everyone that came into the location between 5 and 5:30. They handed use a slip of paper with this site on it and told us that it would explane why. I am deeply moved by this idea and wish that I had know of it this morning so that I could actively participate. Looks like tomorrow is the day for me to take care of this. Happy Birthday Quinn! May God hold you and your family in the palm of his hand.

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  81. Warm chocolate chip bars are being delivered to our local grocery store in honor of Quinn. It's mainly teens that work the night shift and many don't get homemade baked goods. I hope they enjoy this unexpected treat waiting for them at their break table. Thank you for encouraging all of us to share kindness today! Thinking of you in Webster City, Iowa.

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  82. May the Lord bless your soul and continue to comfort you both~

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  83. Celebrating Quinn in St. Louis Park MN...with special flower deliveries.

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  84. Extra gift to our in-home daycare provider!

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  85. Today in honor of Quinn, I brought "get well" balloons and stuffed animals to the children's hospital and asked the child life specialist to give them to the children they felt could use extra cheering-up today. The cards read, "Happy Quinncidence Day!" Words do not do it justice; your strength is inspirational ~ Jenn K.

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  86. To celebrate QUINNcidence Day today I brought cookies in for my co-workers and after work we went to our neighborhood Hy-Vee bakery and told the guy behind the counter to pick a child's cake that's waiting to be picked up, and we paid for it! It was an honor to be a part of QUINNcidence Day today! Can't wait until next year!

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  87. I celebrated Quinn today by taking a pan of scotcheroos to work. I placed a brief note on the cover of Quinn's story and that I know of Tim's parents from my church . Thank you for sharing your story! What an inspiration to so many! Quinn is adorable and I can't even fathom the heartache you have! I hope and pray that you and your families will begin to find peace and strength! What amazing faith you have! I hope to remember Quinn on every March 12th! Blessings!
    Kathryn

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  88. Until about 10 minutes ago I had never heard the story of your precious child Quinn. My neighbor knocked on my door with a box of cupcakes and a card for Quinncidence Day, I had seen this neighbor only a few times as we passed each other in the hall or the parking lot. She suggested I look up this blog to read the inspirational story...I am amazed! My wife and I are expecting our first child, I only hope that if something were to happen to our child that we too would be able to turn it around and change it into a blessing in the lives of those around us. I am very truly sorry to hear about your daughter but God is good and his plan is always perfect. Your family has inspired many lives including ours.

    God Bless

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  89. I wasn't sure I would have time to take part in this wonderful day for your daughter...but my boys wanted to go out for supper tonight - so we headed out to Qdoba. We purchased our meals and the boys were still hungry so they wanted more. So after my one son ordered his meal - I went up to pay for his meal and decided that I wanted to pay for the person behind him. The man was buying meals to take home to his family (at least one kids meal) and my heart filled with joy to purchase the meals for him. The workers bagged up his meals and then proceeded to tell him that his meal was paid for by me and he looked confused at first and then very surprised/happy that someone would do that for him. I think he wanted to come over and say something to us, but I don't think he knew what to say or do. Thank you so much for celebrating Quinn's birthday in this matter and I am going to be doing this more often. God Bless you both for sharing your story with all of us.

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  90. Happy Birthday Quinn! In honor of you I paid for a strangers copay at the clinic I work. I gave the money and note (telling them about your blog and Quinn) to the receptionist and told her to give it to someone that she thought needed it. Thank you for making this day such a joy to so many people. Your family is definitely in my prayers.

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  91. We celebrated your sweet little angel's birthday by taking a pizza to our in-home daycare and delivering a coffee shop gift card to each police officer and the support staff in Brandon, SD. Happy birthday, Quinn. You have warmed so many hearts and brought so many smiles to peoples' faces today.

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  92. It was an honor to celebrate Quinn's birthday today! This morning at planet fitness I brought in bottled water with bows for anyone who needed a drink. They were allowed to take as many as they liked, and was asked to share the kindness today in honor of Quinn. After my 1.5 hour workout 5 bottles were taken, and I saw many people reading your blog that I printed out! I will forever celebrate 3.12.13 as a holiday and a tradition! Thank You for being so inspiring! God Bless

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  93. Our contribution to Quinncidence: took a friend out for coffee, bought 4 gift certificates for coffee for Rowan and Aiden's daycare and preschool teachers and had the boys hand-deliver them with hugs and thank yous. Called my mom in Germany and all three kids, including Maya, talked or cooed to her on the phone, hugged all three of my children much tighter and talked to them about Quinn and the birthday she is celebrating in heaven with Jesus. Love you Alison Sadler Ter Horst!

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  94. I heard about your sweet daughter from a friend, and have been praying for you two. Praying for His peace to give you strength daily. What a beautiful way to honor your daughter today. In her honor I paid for the person behind me in a Caribou drive-thru in MN this morning. Praying you have felt the Lord carry you through today.

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  95. Took muffins to co-workers for Quinncidence Day. God bless you.

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  96. Sweet Ali, through several lovely avenues and dear mutual friends your shining light has been brought into my life and for this I am so grateful. Thank you for the extraordinary, infinite love for your beautiful, beautiful angel and for the remarkable legacy you have created; words truly are not enough. Thank you so much for inviting all of us to celebrate and honor your beautiful princess. Today we brought bouquets of flowers to Prince of Peace in celebration of little Quinn. The sweet florist at HyVee had heard of your story on KELO and, inspired herself, braved the windy morning to help me carry everything outside. We send you our love, prayers, gratitude, and blessings. xoxo

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  97. Paid someone's parking ticket downtown today. Praying all these acts of Quinncidence bring fond memories of your blessed Quinn. Prayers.

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  98. Donated money to provide an Easter food basket to a needy family in Guatemala.

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  99. Your sweet baby girl changed the world today. It brings me to tears reading all of the Quinncidence testimonies.... I do not know your family, I was just turned on to your blog a week ago but my heart breaks for you and your family. I'm in awe over this movement, your Angel baby made more of a difference in lives today than I have made in 27 years. Your story has changed me, I vow to change lives on random act of kindness at a time.... because it's our responsibility to take care of one another and your beautiful daughter has strongly reminded me of this.... for Quinn. Passed in Sioux Center, Iowa

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  100. I went to the grocery store and bought orange juice for the guy behind me (his only item), and the checker said how nice that was. I explained QUINNcidence Day to her and left some cash for the next person in line. I am touched by this event and pray God continues to use you both to be bless others.

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  101. I delivered a box of candy to the nurses at the VA. They cared for my father 5 years ago before he passed away. It was a great opportunity to thank them and also honor the memory of Quinn. Thank you, Tim and Ali for reflecting God's love along this difficult journey of grief. Your family has been a blessing to so many.

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  102. Our girls and I made treats for their pre-k teachers today! Thank-you for your courage in this difficult time.

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  103. I gave $20 to the cashier at Caseys to put towards the man's bill who was pumping his gas outside. The cashier looked really confused, but I hope it was a blessing to both of them in Quinn's name. We pray that you receive the peace that passes understanding!

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  104. I gave away tickets to someone.

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  105. I bought two bottles of water for people behind me at the Summit League Tournament in Sioux Falls SD today. Not much but this story has made me more aware of paying it forward and doing random acts of kindness daily.

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  106. Our family celebrated Quinncidence Day by giving books to our neighbors. We made bookmarks to go along with the books that had pictures of Quinn, her name, birthdate, and the address of this blog. It was really cold outside so a few of our neighbors even invited us inside to learn more about Quinn. A few of them said they had seen the story on the news. We've been wanting to get to know our neighbors better. Quinn (literally) opened those doors today and the families on our block were blessed. Thank you, Tim and Ali, for your courage to candidly share your journey, and for the opportunity to celebrate Quinn's 1st birthday with you in this beautiful way.

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  107. My brother and I celebrated QUINNcidence day all the way in Colorado today! :) I bought bagels for my roommates, Alex left coins on a vending machine for someone to buy a treat, we paid for the order behind us in line at McDonalds, and we told everyone we know and love about ur story and Quinn. (My boyfriend even surprised me with flowers today to help celebrate Quinncidence day!) Quinn has impacted so many people in so many ways, it is amazing to see! Sending prayers and love your way <3

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  108. It is incredibly inspiring and heartwarming to hear of so many people celebrating Quinncidence. I do not know Ali and Tim, but a friend of mine shared their story with me. I too, participated in random acts of kindness and shared this story with so many friends in hopes that they would participate as well. What a perfect way to celebrate Quinn's birthday. I hope you found comfort and a sense of peace in knowing that Quinn touched hundreds, maybe thousands, of people today. Thank you for sharing your story, your courage, and such a heartfelt idea. My heart feels so full today. - Chicago, IL

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  109. Tim and Alison, I hadn't heard about your journey and loss of sweet baby Quinn until today. I am so incredibly sad and sorry for your loss. My family will be honoring Quinn with random acts of kindness a little late here in South East Kansas today. You will both be in my prayers this week. Much love, Randa (Van Rheenen) Smith

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  110. I am a recipient of a Quinncident! What a cool thing this is! I provide part-time childcare for some friends of yours in Minneapolis and they brought a little gift for me today, telling me the motivation behind the RAOK. It felt particularly special as I do infant daycare and am well aware of the SIDS risks for all my babies. I also am a believer and was really encouraged to see how the Lord has shown you a way through. Peace to you.

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  111. It is so touching to hear/read the amazing impact Quinn has made on her birthday! In her honor, we gave our elementary school milk money for kids who aren't able to get milk if their parents can't afford it, my girls wrote encouraging hand written letters to their cousins, we gave some money to someone who is in the hospital battling with an illness, and put an evelope with some money in a couple of my neighbors mailbox. This is also such a great lesson for me to continue to do random acts of kindness just as Jesus teaches us to be kind and loving to others. We will keep you and Tim in our prayers!

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  112. I celebrated Quinn's birthday by buying supper for my whole family and for the person behind me in line. I also told people at the hospitial I was doing my clinicals at all about this day. Thank you for sharing this amazaing event for everyone. God Bless!!!

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  113. read on facebook: Was handed a gift card to target from a stranger. Inside celebrate Quinn who died of SIDS. So touching #quinncidence

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  114. Tim and Alli- I know that I'm a day late but I thought about you all day yesterday. I pray for you often. I gave a gift card to a family going thru some sickness and I am making hats for newborns. I pray that each and every baby feels as much love as I am sure Quinn felt everyday. Thank you so much for being so strong. I know you are changing lives by sharing Quinn's story....you have changed mine.

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  115. I pray often for all of you, and share your story to many. Yesterday I paid for the girl's coffee behind me (which I have always wanted to do and never had) my heart was racing even! And I was able to pass along the reason for the RAOK. The cashier was in tears, I was in tears and looking behind in the rear view mirror, the girl who was surprised looked to be in tears. The fact that you celebrated her birthday in this way is so amazing to me- not even sure how to put it in words. I will say, there will be more #quinncidences through the entire year to share her spirit. What an amazing little angel & may God bless you.

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  116. Amongst other RAOK, I set up a annually recurring $12 donation to be donated March 12th, for years to come. That way I will always be able to celebrate QUINNcidence day, even in a small way. I choose the CJ fondation for SIDS, which was founded by parents just like you. I’m happy I was able to help celebrate your precious Angel’s Birthday!

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  117. Quinn you were celebrated and thought of on your birthday in Roseville,MN! Hearing your story brought the barista at Starbucks to tears of compassion and joy. Your story was then passed on through social media, which then encouraged a man to pay 8 other people's tabs in celebration of your birthday. The way your parents are celebrating your life is beautiful and touching. God is working through them and you!

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  118. my granddaughter, Nora Lynn, was born on your beautiful Quinn's birthday. i knew the angels were singing!

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  119. My Quinncidence day couldn't have came at a better time. My name is Stacy. I am from Aberdeen. I have 3 girls 15, 13, and 10. My "surprise " baby Will was born January 30th. He was born a month early with Esophageal Atresia. This is when the esophagus is not connected to the stomach. He was flown to sanford NICU and had surgery on Feb. 1st to make the repair. Surgery went perfect. We were expected to be here for 2-3 weeks. It has been the perfect storm ever since. He developed a leak where the two ends of the esophagus were sewn together. He has had 5 chest tubes, an Infection, and most recently on Monday, an allergic reaction. I walked into his room on Tuesday feeling exhausted and discouraged. On the desk was a card that read as follows... Happy Quinncidence Day! Dear Stacy and family, a very special infant named Quinn spent 4 days in the Sanford NICU in the same room that your beautiful Will is growing and healing in. In honor of her life that was cut short at 4 1/2 months of life due to SIDS, I choose to bless you and your family with this gift. I acknowledge the tangible love and diligent perseverance through this difficult NICU stay. May u be blessed with support, love, and healing for Will, and each of your loved ones. Peace to you. From an admiring Neonatal Nurse Practioner who is thankful for your admirable pare ting advocacy. " In that moment I nearly slumped to the floor as my legs were weak,and was so overwhelmed of the generosity and thoughtfulness of this human being. Also enclosed was a very generous gift card. As I walk this path that God has chose for me, it gets hard to walk it with strength and courage. It's things like "Quinncidence Day" that keep me going. This is one of the kindest things anyone has ever done for me,and I will never forget it. As I walk the NICU halls looking at the nurse practioners,I wonder which one it was as I pass them by. I can't begin to guess who it was because I cansee every one of them doing something like that, as every single one of them are such a gift to this NICU. If I dont ever get to thank u personally, thank u for impacting my life. To Quinn's parents, what a beautiful tribute to your daughter. U are an amazing couple. I will honor "Quinncidence Day" each year to the infant who shares the same room in the NICU as your daughter did, and where our little Will is. I will pray for your continued healing. You have touched my life in many ways. God bless you. Stacy Schriver

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  120. I read about baby Quinn on someone's Facebook page and thought I would help celebrate her life. You don't know me but I was inspired by your story and wanted to participate. My random act of kindness was giving someone a larger tip than usual. It brought a big smile to his face and a warm feeling to my heart. Thank you for inventing "Quinncidence Day!" You and your family are in my prayers.

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  121. Hi! I read your story on facebook, thank you for sharing and so sorry for your loss. On Tuesday friends of mine list their mother. While they were at the funeral home I snuck in their house and cleaned it and washed clothes!

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  122. Forgot to mention I live in Canada

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  123. I came to your blog after having a flower left on my car at the mall in Des Moines, IA. It came with a card that read "May this bless your day! In memory of Quinn!". It wasn't until later in the day when I was home that I took the card out, saw the website, and learned what it was all about.
    I highly doubt the person that left the flower knew that I was an expecting mother or that I was in for a scary surprise at my appointment later that day. I came home with fears of severe pre-e and possible induction. That card and flower turned into a bigger blessing than the giver could ever imagine.
    A week later I am still at home, badly high BP but no pre-e bless the Lord, and on bed rest. I have been reading your blog. Your little one was a very precious gift, and I am so sorry for your loss. Hearing what you have been through though has been a blessing. It was a much needed reminder to me that while terrible things do happen, there is always a way to get through them.
    I may be frustrated and worried and miserable, but my little one is still healthy and I will do whatever I can to make sure things turn out all right for him or her.
    I pray for you and your family, for healing, and for joy in life and any more children to come. Please pray for me and my little one in the weeks to come. Many blessings on you!

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  124. Hello, I live in Chicago and I read about your request for beautiful Quinn through a posting on facebook on March 12th. That afternoon I went to Starbucks and gave the barista an extra $10 and told him to pay for the next person's coffee and to put the rest in the tip jar. I went back to the same Starbucks today (almost a week later), and that barista told me that the random act of kindness set off a chain of people buying the next person coffee. :)) It made me so happy...and you're little Quinn was the reason for it all!

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  125. Hey, we just got one of your dollars in McDonald's in ky. The kcco made my day. The rak is still working.

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  126. Awesome Idea! We'd love to join you in the celebration of his life.CPR in Kansas

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  127. I am the recipient of one of the anonymous random acts of kindness today. I went to buy a cup of coffee and was told it was paid for and received a note to visit your blog. First, God’s blessings to you and your family. I can’t even begin to understand your pain. My prayers to you and your family. Second, I think this is a wonderful way to celebrate your daughter’s life! Third, thank you to the person who paid for my cup of coffee – somehow today I will pay it forward as well! God’s blessings!

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  128. I surprised my co-worker and took her out for lunch to celebrate Quinncidence Day!

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  129. I just saw this; My birthday is also March 12th and I'm committing a year of doing weekly random acts of kindness. I will think of it as Quinncidence Day! Love it!! Thank you for sharing this beautiful story.

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  130. WE LOVE YOU MRS.T !!!!

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